Dar Ke Age Jeet Hai !!


one of us, without exception,  goes through highs and lows in life . Life therefore is like a Sinusoidal wave which has ups and downs at regular intervals. Each high is followed by a low and each low is followed by a high. But the point to be understood is that in life the “the lows” can be very profound at times and one has to wait patiently and work with full confidence and strength to overcome the “low” phase and keep reminding himself/herself  
“this shall also pass”; and you have not lost until you give up”.

Man jump through the gap. Element of design.

 

We all have some fears, anxieties, depressions, and negativities in life. Trust me, more than 90% of these conditions are baseless, unfounded and are only due to our thought process or “over thinking” and predicting the future with complete negative mindset.

They say Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.”

Well, you always need the right person for counsel you explain the situation with good logics and advise you in a way that your mindset changes from negative to positive.

Let me narrate a couple of my fears/anxieties which I have gone through in life and finally  overcame them and never to looked back.

I realized that I had a fear of Flying rather a phobia associated with air travel when I was a little over 21 yrs of age and was asked to travel by air for an official assignment within a year of my joining the company. I had never travelled by air before that.  I was posted in Delhi and had to travel to Bhopal which could have been easily done by overnight journey by train also. But my Director insisted that I must travel by the morning flight and return by the next day afternoon flight. Panic gripped me immediately on hearing the instructions from the Boss. I just could not digest the idea of travelling by air  I told the Director that I could manage to travel by train both ways without any issue but somehow could not tell the truth of my fobia of flying, as I presumed all my colleagues would make fun of me ! The Boss did not pay any attention to my suggestions and was firm on his decision of my travelling by air not having any inkling that I was shivering inside !!

Anyways, I prepared myself for the early morning flight and reached the airport around 6 am. My parents had come along to see me off at the airport ( after all it was the first time their only son was taking his maiden flight ). I was the last person to go up the ladder and reach the entrance of the aircraft , I turned back and waived to my parents who were waiting in the balcony of the airport main building.

Immediately the air hostesses started closing all the door firmly and gave safety related instructions about the do’s and dont’s  in case of emergency landing, landing on water and air pressure falling etc . These instructions multiplied my fears by several times . All the crew members appeared “Agents of the Yamdoot”, who were all conspiring to kill me.

I had a feeling that this was going to be my first and last air travel. Little did I realize at that point of time that it was only the beginning and I would actually have several hundred ( if not thousands) air travels thereafter in the coming years !

Within a few minutes , the aircraft took off with a roar . Needless to say, my eyes were closed and I was repeatedly chanting the first two lines of “Hanuman Chalisa” ( I dint remember more). After a few minutes the plane reached cruising altitude and some calm prevailed inside me. But it was short lived ! Suddenly, we were passing through some turbulence and the small aircraft( it was a 36 seater Fokker friendship plane) was suddenly losing a few thousand feet of height and again lifting up  the process remained for a few minutes and I was telling myself that the worst fears were coming true !

Somehow, the journey of one hour ( which looked like several hundred hours ) came to an end and the aircraft landed safely at Bhopal. It felt like getting a fresh lease of life !!

Years passed by but everytime I had to travel by air, I had sleepless nights a few days before the scheduled  journey. Situation was similar to the first flight every time.

But I never quit the job, I never stopped flying .

Then I realized one day that I need to talk to someone about this and overcome this fear or else I could not pursue my professional carrier smoothly, which involved a lot of domestic travel and occasional international travel too.

I started talking to my closest friends. One of them suggested I must down a couple of glasses of “Beer” before every take off, another suggested I must take some sleeping pills, one  hour before every take off and so on……..

Somehow I knew, all this is not going to help and these measures are like temporary pain killers and not the cure of the disease.

One day I started this topic with one of my roommates  Vijayraghawan (four of us were sharing a flat in Hyderabad those days , all bachelors of course). At first he laughed but when I explained him the seriousness of the issue, he asked me to sit down and made me understand some basic facts. He convinced me by statistics and otherwise that air mishaps were far fewer than road accidents and train accidents . He explained me in depth how many checks an aircraft goes through before it is cleared for take off . Also , the alternative plans are always in place in case of a trouble and there are always two pilots ( one co-pilot) in the aircraft and are continuously guided and controlled by most sophisticated Air Control Tower at the ground . He explained all this and much more in great detail and fully convinced me that I must not have any apprehensions about the safety of air travel at all.

Somehow Vijayraghawan’s talks worked like a major surgery which corrected the negative mindset and removed the basic fobia from my mind. Next time onwards, I decided to be absolutely normal while flying and  keep my eyes fully open and catch the bull by its horns. Things worked well except for a little while during take off but after a few more flights I actually started enjoying the Air Travel .

Moral : you need to talk to people about your fears and anxieties. One day you will find that Mr/Ms right person and you are bound to overcome your problem.

Fear of public speaking is another issue which makes many people get shivers down their spine even if they have good knowledge of the subject and are extrovert by nature. I have seen people forgetting everything after they reach the stage even after the best of the preparation beforehand. Their trembling voice and nervous body language says it all.

Coming back to my own story on the subject ….Majority of the people in my life (except 2-3 very close friends) will never believe that I am an introvert , in fact a BORN INTROVERT, a very shy person deep inside especially when it comes to opposite gender. I never participated in any plays or debates in school/college and none of the educational Institutes where I studied was a co-ed. Although there was one girl in our engineering college against about 1200 boys !!

Though I was a good sportsman and pursued several Sports and competed at university level  in Badminton. I made quite a few good friends in College but public speaking …..NO WAY, it was not my cup of tea .

After spending a number of years in various departments and having gained reasonable experience , the management of my company decided to post me to marketing department. I am not sure why but many of my seniors believed that I would be ideally suited for marketing. Little did I realize at that point of time that it would mean presentations to the top management, to govt. officials as well as to clients every now and then.

Within a month or two of my joining the marketing department , I was told that we were going to have our annual business meet wherein I would be required to make a presentation on all aspects of the business related to the product I was marketing

The nightmare started ! I was given about two weeks for preparation which appeared sufficient to put all the contents together, to understand the various aspects of my presentation and prepare all the slides (transparencies)  for the Overhead Projector. BUT…. how to prepare for the first big public presentation to my top management including the CEO and about 100 partipants all experts in their own fields.

I rehersed the  opening sentences several times  whenever I was alone in washroom, at night while everyone was sleeping, as well as in the chartered bus on way to office and back. But as the day of the presentation drew nearer, my heartbeat and palpitations also got acceleration and nervousness reached its peak.

I literally started praying that I should fall sick. I was wishing it could be malaria, typhoid or any such fever which could save me from this public presentation but nothing of this sort happened and my prayers did not yield any positive results. I told myself that God was not kind to me as I was not doing prayers regularly  in the past.

Now only 2-3 days remained and our flight tickets were booked from Delhi to Ahmedabad, as the venue of the annual business meet was a resort in “Mehsana” close to the city of Ahmedabad. Day and night I wished and prayed that something should happen and the event should be postponed/cancelled. But nothing untoward happened !!

Well the day of our departure arrived too soon and we were all on our way to Ahmedabad. Now this was the day , trust me, I started praying that the Aeroplane which was carrying us to Ahmedabad should CRASH so that I don’t have to make a big public presentation the next day.But this did not happen and unfortunately we landed safely !

Now it was the night before the presentation and I went to the room of my immediate senior colleague Mr Bhatia with a final request that he should make the presentation in my place. He understood my predicament but flatly refused to agree to my request and told me ‘One day it has to be the first time” so let that be tomorrow.

Then he gave me some very useful tips on public speaking and also assured me, if I get struck anywhere or could not find an answer to any question/query by anyone, he would stand up and support me. That was a big relief to me. But that was not enough. I knew Mr Bhatia was in the habit of going to the washroom very often in office. So I told him my apprehension that in case he goes to the washroom and I get into any awkward situation ?? He laughed ….paused… and then told me “ I assure you I will hold it and will not go to washroom till your presentation is over and that is my promise”. On the lighter side he hastened to add , if required, he would spill drop by drop on his seat if he had to answer the nature’s call but would not break his promise.

Finally, the next day morning , I was on the stage in front of 100+ seniors including the CEO on a no choice basis ! As I had practiced for several days, I spoke the first 3-4 sentences flawlessly looking in the direction of Mr Bhatia with a  fake smile and before I could say anything on the first slide, The CEO asked me to stop ( my hear skipped a few beats) and said as he was from finance background and not with a technical background he asked me to explain the basics of the product about which I was to make the detailed presentation ( Circuit Breaker) and its types in two minutes only.

As I had learnt the basics of the product very clearly only a few days back , I explained him nicely in a little less than two minutes. He thanked me very much for the clarity with a nice smile and asked me to proceed further. This was the turning point of my public speaking .

I was appreciated right in the beginning by none other than my CEO. I gained loads of confidence and completed my presentation without any hiccups and answered practically all queries to everybody’s satisfaction There was a huge applause  as I finished my presentation and I thanked everybody profusely and confidently.

That day onwards, there was no looking back. It became a routine to give public presentations at short notice. I believed that I became more professional with every presentation and the confidence grew by leaps and bounds over the years. Later, after a couple of years, I was told by my seniors that I was having the best presentation skills and a good public speaker !

Only thing I always told myself was YES I CAN DO IT !! And  thereafter I always told all my juniors and staff members that if I could do it, anyone can do it !!

Basically, the fears we don’t face become our limits.

So let’s face the fears cross them and win the world. Don’t just sit over your fears or else you will remain where you are…. as someone said :

 

Mat ban tu us rahi jaisa, jo soche kab kya hoga

Ban tu us Insaan jaisa, jo soche , jo hoga achha hoga

Jo boenge wohi katenge, Yehi to Jag ki Reet hai,

Gyan Yehi hai Jeevan ka, Dar ke age Jeet hai……………!!

 

Loneliness is bliss!

I read somewhere- Living alone, feeling alone, being lonely and being isolated are totally different conditions but we often combine them. This is where we make a big mistake!

In my view if you are alone you are more likely to introspect, plan, be with the nature or reach out to some friend, than otherwise. This means that one has multiple choices when alone than in a company.

Today, you find several young people of both genders preferring to remain Single and stay all alone compared to a few decades earlier for multiple reasons. Most importantly, freedom, control of one’s own time and space and socialize on one’s own terms.

Another factor favoring this trend is the technology which enables one to interact with known and unknown people on social media twenty four hours a day. Further, one often feels that it is better to be alone than with a wrong person.

Today, people especially the educated middle class in metros is more self- dependent, confident, less adjusting type and doing financially better than ever before. That does not, however, mean that people staying alone are always happier than those staying with conventional life partners andfamilies. There will always be times when you need someone for help in case of immediate needs like medical condition or any other.

But the stigma attached to those people living alone, especially women, is far less than it used to be say a few decades back.

Those who were getting into their thirties and early forties were always seen with raised eyebrows and were a talking point among their conventional counterparts who were married in their twenties and living with their families. The ones who remained single were seen as if they are from a different world and were always looked down upon with some kind of suspicion about their sexual deficiency.

However, the scenario has changed and I am sure it is further going to change and the ones who are living alone will have many more people like them and the day may not be too far when their number becomes more than their conventional counterparts

 

– Rakesh Malik

Technology: bane or boon!!

A couple of decades back, when I was a school student in Shimla, we had to walk nearly two kilometers to the Central Telegraph Office in case we were to make a trunk call, in other words, a “long distance call” from one town to another town/ city.

 

There were three options to make a trunk call, viz. General Call, Urgent Call and Lightning call. The first one was most commonly used if there was no urgency/emergency and the call would “mature” in about one to two hours. In case of urgent call, your waiting period would be about half an hour. And, in case of an emergency like some death or serious ailment or a cheerful news of a child birth etc., the ultimate choice was to book a lightning call which you could expect to get through in less than five minutes and it would cost a fortune to make that kind of call.

 

The international call was  not affordable by a common middle class person !!

 

As soon as a call matured, the name of the person who booked the call was announced loudly and he/she would rush with lightning speed to pick up the receiver (to minimize the charges) and start with a loud Hello 2-3 times without waiting to hear from the other side and then the whole conversation was done in such a loud pitch that the entire staff of the telegraph office and the other callers waiting for their call could listen every word. The reason was simple…. after all we were talking to someone a few hundred km away; so there always was a fear that unless we talk very loud, the person on the other side would not be able to hear !! Common sense after all !!

 

The other fast means of communication was a telegram again there was an ordinary telegram and an urgent telegram. These telegrams were invariably delivered within 12 to 24 hours depending on the location. The maximum allowed matter was only one or at the most two sentences. So the telegram was invariably used only to communicate a death/serious illness or sometimes for a child birth.

 

At the very sight of a telegram delivery person in that khaki uniform, everyone in the locality could recognize him from a distance. The entire Mohallah (locality) used to get panicky and in the heart of hearts everyone prayed that the approaching telegram was not for him/her as it was presumed that it would bring some bad news.

 

In either case good or bad news via a telegram would spread to every single house in the locality like a wildfire within an hour or two. And the celebration or the mourning was done together by the whole community in that locality !!

 

The most familiar and the only other means of communication was a Postcard costing five paise, which could be read by anyone in transit, so it had no privacy, an Inland letter costing 10 paise (having partial privacy) and then there was an envelope costing 15 paise which could be used to carry 1-2 sheets of written matter and was fully covered and sealed giving the sender and the addressee complete privacy !!

 

It was not uncommon for the couples married or about to be married, to send a flower along with the letter in the envelope, to express their love to each other and many would write a poetry or an indicative bollywood film song like “ Phool tumhe bheja hai khut meii, phool nahi mera dil hai…..” and so on to make the feelings and message really romantic !!

 

Where have we reached in just a couple of decades!! Thanks to Information technology, the whole globe has become a single village as far as the world of communication is concerned. The electronic media which includes emails, SMS, Apps like Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Skype and so on ….have ensured connectivity 24×7 and one can select his/her own privacy levels!!

 

Hundreds of pages and photographs as well as videos can be shared across the globe by pressing of a few buttons on your laptop or mobile handset. The distance, speed, location have all become non issues. Also, the same message, picture, video can be sent simultaneously to thousands a of recipients  in a matter of seconds.

 

The IT revolution has changed the whole concept of communication and is not an issue any more practically across all classes, cultures, languages, religions, and countries.

 

The internet has made it possible to make Rail/Air/Hotel bookings online, Applcations for Entrance exams, Passport, Visa. Entire banking can be done online and Practically all the payments can be made online sitting in the comforts of your home/workplace. The lifestyle has changed dramatically post the technology revolution !

 

But is there a flip side to it ?? Has everything become very rosy or are we missing a point here!!Well I guess ‘yes’!

 

Technology has brought distant people (known or unknown) closer but has separated the close knit people!!

 

We have  got comforts, speed and privacy  but lost the person to person contact to a great extent !

 

Where are the community celebrations when a good news arrived by a telegram? Where has the subtle romance vanished which was concealed in letters and postal envelopes with real flowers inside along with beautiful words written by your loved ones? Today, if there are four members in a family, all four under the same roof will hardly be communicating within themselves but are all in communication with hundreds of “other” people many of them who have never met the other and may not ever meet in life!!

 

It is not uncommon to see young couples on a beach …….both partners spending most of their time on their own mobile sets ……..sounds romantic ???

 

So, are we not moving from real world to the Virtual world?

 

People prefer to send a text message rather than calling over phone. We have stopped reaching out to people next door or to our own blood relations, because we take them for granted and move on with more and more people on the electronic media!

 

With the above scenario, relationships have become shallow! We tend to believe that we can reach out to several other people on the social media or otherwise  and parents, brother, sister , daughter , son or any other close relative can wait, anyway they know our relationship and they know we care for them always . But the question is how?? How would they know, if you don’t express them in person as we always did for ages.

 

We have become so addict to sending text messages and communicating via chatting, I am afraid the days are not very far when we would forget the ART OF CONVERSATION and become more like Robots !! Thanks to technology !

 

The point I am making is that before the technology invaded our lives at a rapid pace and provided us multiple choices, we were having nice and good community living and shared happiness and grief together always. This is beautifully summarized in the following very emotional ghazal by Pankaj Udhas:

 

“Dukh Sukh Tha Ek Sabka… Apna Ho Ya Begana,

EK Wo Bhi Tha Zamana…Ek Yeh Bhi Hai Zamana !!

 

Complete Health

  ACCORDING TO WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION “HEALTH IS A STATE OF COMPLETE PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL WELL-BEING AND NOT MERELY THE ABSENCE OF DISEASE OR IFIRMITY”

HEALTH IS THE LEVEL OF FUNCTIONAL AND METABOLIC EFFICIENCY OF A LIVING ORGANISM. IN HUMANS IT IS THE ABILITY OF INDIVIDUALS OR COMMUNITIES TO ADAPT AND SELF MANAGE WHEN FACING PHYSICAL, MENTAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL AND SOCIAL CHANGES WITH ENVIROMENT.WHERE THERE IS A HEALTH THERE IS A WEALTH. HEALTH IS VERY IMPORTANT IN ORDER TO BE HEALTHY PHYSICAL FITNESS IS REQUIRED.

     THE IMPORTANCE OF PHYSICAL FITNESS CANNOT BE EMPHAISIZED ENOUGH. IN TODAY’S SOCIETY THAT IS MOVING TOWARDS A MORE SEDENTARY  LIFESTYLE,THERE IS A GREATER NEED THAN EVER TO INCREASE THE DAILYACTIVITY LEVEL TO  MAINTAIN BOTH CARDIOVASCULAR FITNESS AND BODY WEIGHT

   THE BENEFITS OF PHYSICAL FITNESS IS STAYING ACTIVE MEANS KEEPING YOUR BODY FUNCTIONING AT A HIGH LEVEL. REGULAR EXERCISE WILL MAINTAIN THE PERFORMANCE OF YOUR LUNGS AND HEART TO MOST EFFICIENTLY BURN OFF EXCESS CALORIES AND KEEP YOUR WEIGHT UNDER CONTROL. EXERCISE WILL ALSO IMPROVE MUSCLE STRENGTH, INCREASE.  JOINT FLEXIBILITY AND IMPROVE ENDURANCE. ANOTHER MAIN BENEFIT THAT IT DECREASES THE RISK OF HEART DISEASE ADDITIONALLY, ITCAN DECREASE YOUR RISK OF STROKE, COLON CANCER, DIABETES AND HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE.

     EXERCISING DOES NOT HAVE TO BE BORING AND DREADED. IT CAN BE SOMETHING THAT YOU ENJOY THAT HELP TO INCREASE THE OVERALL HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE, AS WELL AS RELIEVES SYMPTOMS OF STRESS, DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY. TRY TO FIND SOME NEW ACTIVITIES THAT GIVES YOY PLEASURE SO THAT EXERCISE IS A FUN AND ENJOYABLE ACTIVITY.

EXERCISE IS NOT SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING TOO MUCH. ANY TYPE OF MODERATE ACTIVITY LIKE WALKING, SWIMMING, BIKING OR ORGANISED SPORTS CAN CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR PHYSICAL FITNESS. YOU CAN HAVE A BRISK WALK IN MORNING LIKE A WARM UP AROUND 5 TO 10 MINUTES.

THROUGH OUT ADULTHOOD IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT TIMES TO MAINTAIN AN EXERCISE REGIMEN.THIS IS THE IDEAL TIME TO MAINTAIN YOUR WEIGHT, BUILD STRONG BONES AND PREVENT MANY CHRONIC HEALTH PROBLEMS LIKE HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, HEART DISEASE AND DIABETES.

   IN TODAY’S BUSY WORLD PEOPLE FORGET ABOUT EXERCISE, EAT UNHEALTHY FOOD AND NO PROPER SLEEP AND THEREFORE WILL LEAD TO LOT OF DISEASES. SO HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO ABSORB AND PASS ON TO YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS, SO THEY CAN BE BETTER VERSIONS OF THEMSELVES.

  • MAKE A SCHEDULE OR A TIME TABLE OF YOUR WORK SO THAT IT WILL BE EASY AND YOU WILL KNOW BEFORE HAND AND ALSO YOU WOULD MAKE A TIME FOR YOURSELF
  • MAKE A LIST OF DIET FOOD AND HAVE AC ONTROL OF YOUR EATING OUTSIDE FOOD, AND EAT FRUITS ANS SALADS
  • HAVE A 20 MINUTES BREAK BETWEEN THE WORK IT WILL HELP YOUR BODY TO RELAX
  • HAVE A BRISK WALK EVERY MORNING AROUND 5 TO 10 MINUTES IT IS ALSO CONSTITUTE AS EXERCISE
  • WAKE UP WITH THE POSITIVE THOUGHT IT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY AND ENERGITIC THROUGHTOUT THE DAY

   SO EXERCISE REGURLARLY, VERY DAY IS POSSIBLE,IS THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR HEALTH.

  • Monika S

What is Fashion?

The word Fashion can be thought of as a combination of : Fun – Ambitious- Sizzling- Hot – Independent – Optimistic- Narcissistic . On the surface it might seem that be fashionable is all about expensive fabrics, trending designs, slim body. But no, there is much to it than you can see. There are certain scientific rules to look fashionable in whatever you wear.

1 ) The fit : clothes should fit appropriately and neither sag nor be too tight.

2) Colour combination : You have to be very careful about this point because a wrong colour combination can make you commit fashion blunders even when there is nothing wrong with the outfit.

3) Accessorizing : This can make even simple outfits go from dull to f-a-bulous.

But never over accessorize as it can make your outfits look cheap.

4) Experimenting : To be a style diva you need not own truck loads of outfits but what you do need to have is a vision about the combinations of outfits that might look good together. And in this process you might commit fashion blunders at times but thats okay.

5) Occasion appropriate : I know there might be a cute see- through top you bought the other day and cant wait to wear it . But cant visit college in that causing boys to lose concentration in studies. You need to pick outfits which suit the situation . You can look as cute in a denim top and make a style statement in college.

Appearances should not matter and we should not judge someone by their looks but if being a bit creative can boost our confidence , then why not invest a little time and be fabulous. Life is short so never be scared to try something new.

  • By Sumi Jalan

You are What and How you eat….

   It is correctly stated that Health is the actual Wealth that a person can retain. Health and fitness are the important factors for living the life fullest. Many people have a perception that Heath and fitness are different from beauty. Whereas Beauty, Health and Fitness go hand in hand with each other. A healthy person is not only fit but also beautiful and the happiest person anyone can see. A balanced diet plays an important role in maintaining good health as well as for maintaining the beauty. Being healthy is a way of maintaining the body in a good way. Maintaining Health and fitness helps you feel good and look good. There are several campaigns that are being carried out on maintaining health and fitness as it has become a necessity for every being to stay active and healthy in the busy lives. Most of the celebrities or fashion icons who maintain good health and diet not only look fit but also beautiful. Healthy habits improve your physical appearance, mental stability, ability to perform activities in a better way, which help you lead a stress-free lifestyle. Protecting body from the intake of harmful substances, doing regular exercises, having proper food and sleep are some of the important instances that define a healthy Person.

              Maintaining health and beauty is a very easy task and can be done at any time apart from working out in gyms. There are many Indian theories which say that if closely observed most of the beauty products which also help in maintaining health and fitness are present in kitchen and are affordable. Some of the Indian spices that help in maintaining beauty and health at the same time are:

Turmeric: Turmeric has wonderful anti ageing, antibiotic and antiseptic properties. Most of the Indians apply to their skin for skin lightening. Most of the foreign beauty products have also started using turmeric as the main content. Turmeric acts as an antiseptic and antibiotic it is generally consumed along with milk for better results especially to cure any bruises or any inner illness in the body.

Ginger: Ginger has toning and antioxidant properties which help in maintaining skin and health at the same time. Ginger contains 40 antioxidant properties that prevent free radical damage and protect against aging. It helps in curing Respiratory problems and aids Digestion Ginger when used as a Scrub in combination with Sugar and oil stimulates Blood Circulation. Ginger has detoxifying and invigorating qualities, which are highly beneficial to maintain a healthy life style. Ginger is as effective as vitamin B6 in treating morning sickness. 

Mustard Seeds: Being the  second most popular spice sold across the world, Mustard seeds cure the problem of Rheumatic arthritis, migraine, respiratory problem etc.They are excellent source of selenium and a very good source of omega-3 fatty acids  Many people in India use mustard oil in cooking. Mustard seeds act as natural scrub which hydrates the skin and prevents aging.

Apart from the spices mentioned above Cinnamon, Garlic, Chamomile are some of the other spices which help in maintaining health and beauty at the same time. These spices can be used in your regular diet. The amount of intake of these spices should also be considered.

Most of the people who take fitness regime tend to follow different diet chart where in they sacrifice their favorite foods and starve themselves under the name of diet. This will in no way help in maintaining health but instead detains health and the skin. A proper diet is the one with which one is happy and also able to maintain good health, as the dieticians say regular intake of food in small quantities can help on to be healthy and active. One can maintain good body and be happy not by sacrificing his food desire but by taking small quantities of what you like to satisfy your cravings, because when you appreciate yourself that’s when you are beautiful and appreciation is only possible one is happy with themselves.

  • Komarigi Srividya

Authors note:

All the information mentioned above is tried and tested by me and are really helpful in maintaining health and beauty at the same time.

LOVE : A BOLLYWOOD REQUISITE

“Ishq de mere mitran pehchaan ki…
Mit jaave jaddo zidd apnan di…”

Remember this dialogue from Akshay Kumar starrer Namastey London. Everything about love is exquisite. And everything about Bollywood is a finely scripted love story. From the very birth of Hindi cinemas, the definition of love has crossed evident milestones with time. Hindi cinema has always given masterpieces to remember. The film makers never failed to unfold the essence of love. Gradually, love grew to become not just a feeling between two young people but between any two souls with affection.                                

                            

From epic romances like Mughal-e-Azam to evergreen romance in Aradhana, creating history with Dilwale Dulhania Le Jaenge to breaking records with Bajirao Mastani. Glancing at this incredible journey, here are 5 absolutely rich and stereotype breaking romances of Bollywood:

  • FANAA

                 

A love story with a tragic end has always been able to stay in the people’s heart forever. This is one of the reasons that this 2006 movie still stands on the list of Bollywood’s historical romances. The plot revolves around a terrorist who changes identities for his missions. Things go out of his hands when he falls in love with a blind girl. Many events follow and they meet again. But this meeting turns to be fatal as the girl has to make a choice between her country and her love. In the end, he dies is her arms. The end is what touched the audience and won hearts all over.

“Tere dil mai meri saanson ko panaa mil jaaye…

Tere ishq mai meri jaan fanaa ho jaaye…”

  • GUZAARISH

                         

A 2010 blockbuster by Sanjay Leela Bhansali is featured on a magician turned radio jockey who is quadriplegic. Defeated by his frailty, he had requested for ‘Euthansia’. This film shows the love and affection of a nurse that grows silently in the past 12 years that she has been taking care of him. This is a different toll on love as it shows the lady ready to leave anything just to be able to spend a few happy moments with him. She even gets a divorce and never leaves the magician till his last breath. Love is everything about what you can do to see the person content.

“Till death do us apart.”

  • MY NAME IS KHAN

           

Can love alter the course of destiny? This film has your answers. One dyslexic man goes beyond boundaries to prove his love. His search for the President to prove his son’s innocence is what the story is about. Some movies just can never grow out of love. And this is one of those kinds. This film proved that the language of love doesn’t need words. It became the 10th highest grossing overseas film of its time. There is not a single eye that did not shed tears watching this man fight.

“Mujhe darr toh bahut si cheezon se lagta hain…

Par sabse zyada dar tumhe kho dene ke khayal se lagta hain…”

  • VEER-ZARA

                 

Imagine being a prisoner of 22 years without a crime! Unbearable, right? Veer, an Indian army officer falls in love with a Pakistani girl Zara. To save her from the embarrassment, he takes up the charge of something he had never done leaving him in the Karachi prison for 22 long years. Its only after that when a lawyer decides to take up his case and finally reunites him with his long lost love. This film made history when it was declared as ‘The film of the year 2004’.

“Sachhi mohabbat zindagi mai sirf ek baar hoti hain…or jab hoti hain… toh koi bhagwan yah khuda use kamyaab nahi hone dete… “

  • VIVAAH

     

In the Indian culture of arrange marriages, can two strangers promise to love each other even when something goes wrong? Loving a beautiful person is ordinary, but to hold that love through all odds is the message of this film. With one of a kind storyline, this film didn’t fail to impress even the younger audiences. This film definitely changed the arranged marriage perception.

“Mera pyaar iss ka mohtaaj nahi…”

-Sayphali Misshra

Health Benefits of Tea

Can you imagine a day without tea? As a tea lover, I know the answer is a ‘big fat no’. Even imagining a day without tea is impossible. If Newton’s apple has made our life complicated, Shennong’s boiling water helps us to get over it, at least for a moment. What if the leaves hadn’t fell in and turned the water red? Newton would have covered our mind with clouds of concept. Although it’s a conspiracy theory still we can thank the emperor for his discovery. Tea is the second most consumed drink in the world after water. It equals the consumption of coffee, chocolate, soft drink and alcohol combined. I’ve always wondered why? Why is it so that tea is the most important part of our everyday life? What are the benefits of having tea?

I came across many benefits which answered my questions. Some of them are:

  • It contains antioxidants.
  • It has less caffeine than coffee.
  • It reduces the risk of heart attack and strokes.
  • It may help in weight loss.
  • It helps protect bones.
  • It boosts our immune system.
  • Many studies have even found, it helps in battle against cancer.

    And the list goes on.

Meanwhile there are also some harmful effects of tea. High consumption of black tea that contains caffeine can cause mild to serious effects like headache, nervousness, sleeping problems, diarrhoea, irritability, dizziness, etc. Simply saying “Excess of anything is bad.”

The world isn’t over yet. Tea has spread its wing and given us a kind that’s beneficial for us in the form of ‘Green tea’.

Why everyone should drink Green Tea?

Tea is one of the oldest and a completely natural drink on the globe and Green Tea, the healthiest of the tea industry. The difference is not in the plant but the way its leaves are processed. Green tea leaves are steamed rather than fermented. Its health benefits combined with delicious flavour has given it a new height. It has been researched and found that green tea inhibits the growth of cancerous cells, effectively removing the risk of certain type of cancer. It also reduces cholesterol. It has been found that green tea removes the bad cholesterol from our body. It improves our diet and has come out as an important ingredient in beauty products. It also helps in removing decay from the teeth.
Meanwhile black and oolong do have some similar benefit but Green Tea comes out as a winner. So if you are not already a tea lover, be one.

In the words of C.S.Lewis, “You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me” and Fyodor Dostoyevsky, “I say let the world go to hell, but I should always have my tea.” So what are you waiting for. Grab a cup, pour in and live.

—By Aquilur Rahman

Romance in blue moon night

At a very young age, many men had touch me due to my feminity. My feminity was molested and I was merely a sex toy for eyes full of lust. Those days were bad, dark and horrible I use to be sceptical that whether someone even loves me or not. All that I heard was taunts for my feminine behaviour and at that time only thing which made me happy was my passion for dance and poetry. And as they say when you are in your adolescence sometimes controlling your hormones becomes uneasy. I was introduced to dating sites where many people who were looking for sex but not for love. After some casual flings I chatted with a guy who seemed to be very honest in his approach and then words were pouring into our chat box, digits went across the borders of our mind and we met. It was an unusual day which started off as the disappointment but who knows what is up next?

I met him at a railway station and there comes this guy with an amazing personality which can be spotted out on the spot and anyone can fall for him and I did. I was blushing when he said “hi” to me and it took some time for me to respond him and I was already in love. I went with him to his flat and it was a great place to be a small and sweet house to create lot of memories, half of the time I was busy narrating how bad my day was and after a moment I realised he’s just staring me as if he just wanted some noise in his silent life. Our chats were never ending, we giggled, laughed and hugged each other several times that day but idea of making love wasn’t in our mind.

It just happened, romance just dropped in like a red grape in wine to make it more sensuous, our lips spoke less as they were busy caressing each other. And that was the first time when someone touched my lips. I was flabbergasted and then he plays a melodious Hindi song and he beholds me in his arms and dances with me. Those were some of the best moments of my life when I was the only centre of attraction and there was someone who knew how to make love and be a gentleman. His eyes full of love were piercing my heart and I didn’t want to leave him but circumstances departed us by distance but we were close to each other’s heart and we rejoiced every other day since then.

And romance in blue moon night made me more confident and self-loving and it evoked the feeling of love in me and erupted beautiful memories whenever I think of it after my break-up.

 

-Swapnil sabban

Top 10 Romantic holiday destinations

Tropical islands, sandy beaches, Parisian streets have become the perennial motifs for the ultimate romantic getaway. But not every couple wants to simply kickback with a cocktail on the beach or a pain au chocolat in a quintessential Parisian café.

1.Tiptoe through the tulips, windmills and Amsterdam, the Netherlands is a great country to explore with your significant other. Amble through a village with canals instead of roads, a town that was once an island, and one of the prettiest cities in Europe.
-Giethoorn does not have the grandeur and history of Venice, but it is so utterly fetching it deserves a place in fairytales. The best way to get around is by boat, on canals lined with houses and gardens so utterly adorable, you just need to hold your partners hand and experience this transcendent fairy land.

2.Santorini in Greece is the sort of spot that might move you to marriage in the first place: visit this Cyclades isle with a beau and you’re bound to leave engaged. It oozes romance, with its pretty white houses tumbling down a part-sunken caldera. Stay in a boutique bolthole where you can sip Santorini wines on a private terrace while watching the sun sink into the glittering sea. Santorini islands are popular for its sublime sunsets.

3.Savour a few days of solitude with your partner at Gorubathan, West Bengal. This is a land that is the trifecta of thick, whispering sal forests, lush tea gardens, dizzyingly tall mountains and unfettered love.

4.Malawi is dominated by its lakes and its reputation for friendly people and easy travel. But, step away from the stereotypes and you’ll find much more. The country has beautiful and diverse landscapes, ranging from dramatic peaks to rolling grasslands, from hills and waterfalls to a tropical shoreline.

5.Go café hopping in Singapore; lots can transpire in a café including romance and Singapore is a nation that takes its food and drink seriously and is home to some of the funkiest cafes. If you or your partner is a food or beverage connoisseur then you know where to take him/her!

6.New Zealand’s Doubtful Sound is the less-visited sibling of Milford Sound. It is the remoteness that makes it so special especially if you take an overnight cruise with your significant other. Whether on a misty day or a sunny one, the views from the water are postcard material. It is an experience to absorb at a slow, thoughtful pace.

7.Take pleasure in the slow life in Mohali, Punjab. Forget your alarm clock at Baans Bagh- it’s the peacocks that wake you up. Loud and early, just in time to see a hint of the sun peeping out from behind the Shivaliks. By the time you’re out on the terrace with a cup of steaming coffee, the sun will have risen just enough to showcase a spectacular countryside view.

8.Wachau valley- the jewel of Lower Austria is the perfect take-it-easy romantic destination for an offbeat holiday. This 33km stretch along the Danube has all the quintessentially Austrian elements- ancient structures, quaint villages and, of course some of the best vineyards in the country. You can easily spend a few hours here lost in self-reflection. Being in this place with the love of your life feels like a warm embrace.

9.Take a beach break to Tuticorin, Tamil Nadu; on one side, the ocean laps the shore; on the other, salt pans glint like misplaces snow in the sunlight. Then, as the dust clears, a cluster of whitewashed structures with flecks of blue appears, and, suddenly, a Mediterranean vibe overrides the eerie desolation. This place has much more to offer than meets the eye. Spend your evenings cycling around followed by a scrumptious fish curry!

10. Take a romantic walk along the cherry blossom-lined streets in Kyoto, Japan. Cherry-blossom trees line the sidewalks, and pagodas sit atop lush green hills Venture into the center of authentic Japanese culture- visit temples fringed by Zen gardens and explore the many arenas of Japanese culture, cuisine and traditions. Once the capital of Japan, Kyoto flourished for centuries as the country’s cultural, religious, and economic center.
 
 
-Shailee Basu